How To Hold A Girl’s Hands
June 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Are you looking for opportunities to connect with a girl? Then holding her hand is the perfect means of reaching out to her. Whether you are beginning a relationship or growing it, here are three sure ways to connect and hold her hand.
Gimme Five
Gimme five is a classic opportunity to hold hands. Well, technically, you don’t hold hands, but touch hands, and that should be a good start. Use this technique if you are not entirely sure about your feelings towards a girl, or if you are still testing the waters.
As you go on about your friendship, there will be an opportunity to connect, to feel without committing, to see if sparks will fly. When you share a victorious moment, say winning a foosball game or finishing a project, ask the girl to give you five by holding out your palm facing up and say, “Gimme five!” With such a friendly and risk-free move, she will definitely oblige. As soon as she slaps your hand, momentarily close your eyes and savor the experience. If you felt sparks, then she’s definitely a keeper. If not, then don’t lose hope, there are other opportunities to physically connect with her and test if the relationship is headed somewhere.
I Got You
This opportunity to hold a girl’s hand arises when the girl is about to overcome an obstacle and would need support, say as she alights from a vehicle or flight of stairs or when leaping across a puddle of water. Do the following:
As the girl is about to embark on the activity, look into her eyes and convey, without words, that you are there for her. If she’s looked away and is concentrating on the obstacle in front of her, then bravely declare that you are there by saying, “I got you” or ” here,” and simultaneously hold out your hand with the palms up and fingers slightly cupped. No girl can resist a helping hand and an assured voice.
As she takes your hands, you will feel that she will cup her hands onto your palms, as if securing herself on you and may put on some weight, especially when she’s on her way down.
Respond by securely cupping your fingers and locking your elbows and shoulders to accept the added weight that she will put on you. Just be conscious not to grip too hard, as she may feel a strain if her hands are squeezed too tight.
As she overcomes her obstacle, gently ease the grip, but don’t let go of her hands just yet. This is a decision moment for you, whether to take the opportunity to continue holding her hand, or to let her go and hope for a next time.
If you decide to hold on, then ease into to the next type of holding hands, for a more comfortable connection.
If you decide to let go, then make sure she remembers the experience. As you ease-up the grip, warm up her hands to convey the honor and pleasure you experienced in the opportunity to secure her. Caress her hand by sliding your thumb on top of her hand or sliding you fingers at the side of her hand. At the same time, ask if she’s ok, or if she’s ready to go. Soon as she say’s she’s ok, gently let go and politely bid her to, “take care on your way,” or “have a good walk.”
Locked to Me
If you are in a stable relationship, then you know that physical intimacy is part of fostering your bond. Holding hands is an intricate part of your relationship. Whether you do it in private or public, holding hands does not only connect your emotions but enhances it as well. One of the most common types of holding hands is the “locked to me” way.
This style has to do with interlocking your fingers with hers, as you hold hands. Do this by putting your palms together, as if in prayer.
As your palms align, the fingers will naturally align. However, to be intertwined, pivot your palm slightly sideways and open up the spaces in between your fingers.
As your fingers open up, the girl’s fingers will naturally fall into the spaces in between, so both your fingers alternate with each other. Just curl your gingers to the back of the other’s palms and your fingers and hands become locked to each other.
As your relationship grows, you may discover other ways of holding hands, and those that will suit yours and her hand type. The important thing is never letting go, for as long as your hands are together, you and her become one.
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How to Approach Girls – the Only Way to a Beautiful Life
June 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Many men do not have a clue about the right way to approach girls. It is not a hard thing yet guys are swimming in ignorance. If you have the right frame of mind, approaching girls is a hobby and an enjoyable experience for both the guy and the girl. Approaching in this case means walking up to a woman and talking to her for the very first time. It starts with spotting an attractive girl. After that your mind starts evaluating a possibility of talking to her. You think about whether she is worth the efforts. If you think that you stand a chance then you go ahead and make your interests known. Thinking about it is not hard but coming up with a start up line is not that easy. Your head goes blank and all over a sudden your heartbeat rate increases.
Many guys create an awkward moment the time they walk up to the interesting girl. This is because whatever they communicate does not show any attraction whatsoever. If you try to impress the girl and she instead walks a way, it is clearly something you said or did. Do not become mad because it was your fault. If you are sure of what type of girls you are attracted to you should find fun because you should have known how to approach girls. You have in mind your dream woman and so do not approach a woman who is not anywhere close. Many men will dream of a sweet, cocky, sexy, smart and sassy woman. If you are not sure you better get a pen and a paper and list down all the characteristics of a girl you would be attracted to.
How to approach girls will never be a problem to you because you always attract what you expect. Your objective will radically change because you will approach women to find out if they are your ideal partners. Know the type of a person she is and find out if you can take the next step. If she is not, drop the conversation slowly and walk away. If her characteristics align to your dream woman you will effortlessly appreciate her. Point out to her the characteristics and let her know she has them and you like her because you like them. Most men are not sure of what they want and that is why they approach any woman and settle for anything called a girl.
If you are looking for an adventurous lady, talk about adventure and rate her on your scale. Many women are sure of the characteristics they want in a guy. That is why it is so easy for them to eliminate men. As a man when you are picky you become so attractive. Walk up to a woman and show that you are trying to find out who she is. It is a better way to approach girls compared to walking up to her and showering her with praises and insincere compliments. You look so un serious. If you know the right questions to ask, then you have all it takes to approach girls and pick your dream girl while having fun in the process.
By: Francis Githinji
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A Man’s Guide To Preparation, Goals, And Pick Ups
June 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment
If it’s your desire to become a pickup artist, then you should probably ignore the archetype propagated by the entertainment industry. You don’t have to be a sleaze or a clown to attract a pretty girl.
In actuality, you can attract a beautiful woman with a bit of preparation. It’s not as hard as you might think, and it’s fun.
You can never really know when a pickup is going to go well, but there are ways you can prepare. So here are some steps for success BEFORE you go out picking up women!
When you go to a place where you know there will be attractive women, make the decision that you’re actually going to pick them up!
Too often, guys will go out with no real goal in mind. And guess what? When you have no outcome in mind – you’ll usually end up with NOTHING.
But if you go out with a specific goal, your chances of achieving that goal go up DRAMATICALLY.
It doesn’t matter if it’s as simple as “Talk To One Woman Tonight,” or as ambitious as “Find The Woman Of Your Dreams.”
As long as you have a goal, your chances of picking up a girl will increase substantially.
You don’t even have to be GOING OUT to pick up women. Maybe you’re visiting a food court in mid-afternoon because you’re feeling hungry, and you know you’ll spot at least one attractive woman there who you could see later.
You may or may not succeed in your quest, but you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome if you go with the mindset that you can pull off a successful pickup.
Always take a pen and paper, or at least your cell phone, wherever you go. You’ll need it for when you exchange numbers with women. Be sure to keep a condom with you, too, just in case! Knowing that you have protection on hand is just one more thing that will keep you from chickening out.
Remember: Do Not Give Yourself An Excuse NOT To Pick Up Women!
If you give yourself more reasons to NOT do something, it will, in fact become more difficult to do.
Look at it this way – you have spent a good portion of your life making excuses to not pick up women. Is it working for you?
Not good, I bet.
Listen: Picking up women successfully is about being mentally prepared to engage someone socially.
If you are thinking about all the things that CAN go wrong, if you’re obsessing over everything about yourself that ISN’T attractive, if you’re looking for excuses NOT to try and pick up the girl…
Guess what?
Chances are – YOU’RE NOT GOING TO PICK HER UP!
That is why you simply need to mentally prepare yourself for the pickup. NO EXCUSES!
Visualize a positive outcome. Focus on all you have to offer a girl. Be fun, friendly, and open. But most importantly – TALK TO HER!
Don’t let the opportunity pass you by. Even if you have a “bad feeling” or are nervous, just think of it as a “practice run” to help get you warmed up.
Know your environment. When you meet a girl you like, you’ll want to get together with her soon – preferably the same day, while her attraction for you is still high. Be aware of good places nearby where you can “bounce” to, like bars, coffee houses, lounges, art galleries, or other fun place where you and your “target” can have a change of scenery.
You’ll want to go to a place that’s low-key enough so you can get to know each other better. When you bounce from one location to another, it’s like you’re going on another date. Why wait for another week to pass by to take her on another date so you can build comfort with her, when you know you can do it on the same day?
Have a place in mind where you can become intimate with her. If you live nearby and you can bring her home, so much the better.
Have an excuse to take her home that has nothing to do with lovemaking. You can have a DVD that she’s never seen but has to see, or an exotic drink she’s never tried, or some photos you’ve taken of a place where you’ve been that she’s never seen.
You can try playing a song for her, one that you’ve written. All in all, it does not really matter – use your imagination to get her comfortable enough to come to your place.
All in all, you need to TAKE ACTION! If you are prepared for success, you can make it happen easier. So stop with the excuses, and go get her!
By: Joseph Matthews
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I’ll Teach You How to Pick Up Girls in Six Easy Steps
June 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment
HTML clipboardI cannot tell you how many times I have been asked by men how to pick up girls. This seems to be an unsolved mystery for many men. You would expect the answer to this question to be pretty straight forward, but unfortunately many people are clueless to the answer. I cannot tell you how many times men have got it wrong, when it comes to understanding girls and how to pick up girls. I’ll try to give a brief answer to this complicated question.
For starters girls are turned off by needy men. The moment you show you are desperate and weak you are out. That is probably the most unattractive feature for a girl. In fact, there was a recent social experiment which confirmed this fact. There was a party in which a large group of single guys and girls attended. At the end of the party, a certain number, a select number I might add of the single men went home with some of the single girls. Quite a few single guys went home alone. The experiment aimed to discover why the girls chose these certain guys and what did these guys who were chosen by the girls have in common with one another. Data was gathered from the experiment but to produce accurate results, the social scientists conducting the experiment decided to throw a few more parties so a clear pattern could appear. So a few parties took place in which the same type of data was collected. At the end the results showed that there indeed was a commonality between the single guys who went home with the girls. The girls said the reason they chose those certain guys, is because they did not appear needy or desperate. Unlike most of the other guys at the parties, these guys did not make themselves so available and did not show that much or any interest in the girls. In other words, they played hard to get. These guys knew how to pick up girls.
Another important factor in picking up girls is confidence. You need to show a high level of self-confidence. Girls admire a man who is confident. Confidence is shown by the way you hold yourself, the way you walk and the way you talk. Many men don’t realise how important it is to appear confident. A lot of men become shy and weak in front of a beautiful girl and that works against them. In most cases a beautiful girl will be dismissive of such a man. You will come across as someone who cannot stand up for her or protect her. Remember, we are all biological creatures and have animal instincts. A girl on the subconscious level is looking for a man to take care of her.
In conclusion, a lack of interest and neediness and self confidence is how to pick up girls. It is much more important then pick up lines, money, a nice car, or good clothes. I know guys that have all of the things I just mentioned and are failures when it comes to picking up girls, because they are needy and lack confidence.
If you would like to learn how to build that strong self-confidence girls are craving in a man and how to pick up girls, then check out my website where you will find my free report that have given thousands of men the confidence to seduce women.
By: Mark Taylor
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Mark Taylor is an expert on seduction, attraction and dating. He has helped thousands of men attract beautiful women and get over their shyness and transform into confident men. If you would like to be able to seduce ANY women then check out his website at www.masteronlinedater.com
Revealing Pick Up Lines for Girls
June 28, 2009 | Leave a Comment
HTML clipboardThirty years ago there were very few pick up lines for girls, it wasn’t considered socially acceptable for a girl to approach a guy. Today it has become much more acceptable; in fact it has become mainstream. There are some girls, who are much more proactive then guys when hitting on the opposite sex.
Pick up lines that girls use are quite different than the ones men use and women also have a much easier time delivering pick up lines with success. One reason girls have it much easier then guys, because guys will be much more welcoming when a girl approaches them. In fact, some guys will hope a girl approaches them. A girl can say just about anything to some guys and the guy will be interested in them. Here is a list of pick up lines for girls that are used frequently and you may have heard:
(Brush against him and say) I’m sorry. You look familiar.
(Trip and fall into his lap; then say) I’m sorry! I’m so clumsy.
(If a man is staring, go up to him and say) Well are you going to talk to me or not?
(Send a note via waiter to a man that says) “Here is my phone number. Would you like to have a drink some time? Or, send the waiter with a drink.
Didn’t I see you in GQ?
I was going to double-date with my friend and her date, but mine cancelled. Would you go with me?pick up lines
You look like a real challenge.
My girlfriend thinks we should meet and go out because we’d be perfect for each other.
Hi! You look interesting.
Remember that the same rules apply for women and men! Women should approach men with interest and with the right attitude and confidence. You can’t let the fear of rejection control you, turn the fear into adrenaline and show him how stupid he would be to pass up on you. In any event, the odds are in women’s favor as discussed above. There are many pick up lines for girls, but the key is not to give it much thought. Most men will welcome an approach by women, they have it a lot easier, so there is less of a need to use pick up lines.
If you want to look beyond pick up lines and would to know when girls are interested in you, even if a girl hasn’t approached you, then check my website out for a free report that will teach you when a girl as interested in you and how to approach them. Never miss out on these hot leads again!
By: Mark Taylor
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Mark Taylor is an expert on seduction, attraction and dating. He has helped thousands of men attract beautiful women and get over their shyness and transform into confident men. If you would like to be able to seduce ANY women then check out his website at www.masteronlinedater.com
