How to Pick Up Girls Online Using Two Instant Messaging Tactics
June 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment
Everyone uses the various instant messengers such as MSN, Windows Messenger, AIM, and Yahoo! There’s even instant messaging on Facebook now and if you aren’t using them, some would say you’re behind the times.
I would say, you are missing out on some prime opportunities to pick up some beautiful women online.
Instant messaging is often one of the most neglected avenues for picking up some of the hottest girls. However, many guys just make far too many mistakes when it comes to instant messaging beautiful women. You need to attract women to you, not pounce on them like a predator, at least not in the early stages.
The funny thing about picking up girls through instant-messaging is that it is so much easier than it sounds or looks.
Let’s go over a very common error guys make when talking to beautiful women on instant messaging. This mistake sometimes completely blows their chances of getting a date.
How To Pick-Up Girls Online: Do not Instant Message Too Fast
The common mistake is men and women too talk way too fast. I mean we simply send too many messages and too quickly. Unless this is part of a joke you’re trying to pull, this comes off as much too needy.
Pace of chat, like in real-life conversation, is critical even during instant messaging conversations. Talking too fast on instant messaging is the equivalent of being “that annoying guy that doesn’t leave those girls alone.”
As a rule of thumb, every time she sends you a message, wait 6-10 seconds before responding. Of course this doesn’t apply to everything. There are other secrets to using instant messaging but I’m not going to cover it in this article.
By taking these extra few seconds of silence after she sends you a message, you won’t come off like you are doing nothing but talking to her. Remember what we are trying to portray here?
You are trying to portray a confident, high-quality male. Guys like you have better things to do than just talk to her. You are talking to other people. You are on the phone. You are busy with your job. You get the picture.
Women want guys with lives. So do not portray like you do not have one. Do not smother her with messages.
Here is another tip. Make sure your spelling and punctuation is at least adequate. Wow, finally grade school is important?
Everyone should be doing this all the time with everyone. When you are instant-messaging with a girl, take that extra few seconds to make sure you haven’t slaughtered the English language!
How To Pick-Up Girls Online: Intelligence
Here’s an example of what NOT to do:
“Hey. What r u doing 2night?”
Does it honestly hurt that much to simply type, “Hey. What are you doing tonight?”
The answer is no. Do not be lazy. By doing this you are portraying some degree of intelligence. Portraying intelligence is never a bad thing. It shows that you have high survival and replication value.
Do you honestly think some girl is going to dig you if it’s evident that you have the brain the size of peanut? I guess if you’re going for that type of girl.
Okay. So we have covered the pace of the conversation and the importance of spelling, punctuation, and grammar. But I could honestly spend forever talking about some more meaty tips to help you seduce women online.
By: Ace Bill
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How To Flirt With Women and Attract More Girls Using These Rules
June 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment
How to flirting with women
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Flirting with women is something that guys often feel uncomfortable doing. I’ve had many guys write to me to tell me that they were afraid they’d get arrested if they were seen flirting with women in a store or other establishment during the day.
(I think this fear is very common, and it holds a lot of guys back from approaching women during the day…)
I want to give you some of my favorite strategies for flirting with women that you can put to work right away.
First of all, I want you to know that the term “flirting” is really just chick-speak for “pickup.” Guys talk about “picking up” on girls, and women talk about “flirting” with guys.
It’s a subtle difference in language and terminology that you need to understand so that you don’t risk turning off a woman. Women love to flirt, but hate the thought of being picked up on – which connotes fun and playfulness.
Pickup, on the other hand, is serious and sex-oriented, which turns women off.
The next thing you need to be aware of is that we are all born natural flirts. Just watch kids when they’re playing. Watch their body language and their facial expressions. Watch how they roll their eyes, and how they use the tone of their voice to get their way with adults, as well as other kids.
They are EXPERTS!
You were once, too, and all you need to do is tap back into it.
Now, the rules of flirting with women:
RULE #1) Flirting is always acceptable in a humorous tone.
If you get serious, a woman is going to turn off and tune you out.
Simple. ‘Nuff said.
RULE #2) Flirt to GIVE, not to get.
Outcome thinking sabotages your results. When you create a situation where you have to get a result from something you do, you no longer feel fun.
All conversations where someone wants something from the other person inevitably become uncomfortable.
RULE #3) Flirt for your own FUN.
If it’s not fun, you won’t keep doing it. Self-reinforcing habit. You must have a positive motivational reason to flirt, or you’ll feel like it’s just another chore and you’ll stop doing it.
I was at the best buy the other day buying a movie, and the cute cashier asked me: “Can I see your credit card real fast?”
So I literally pulled it out of my wallet and slid it back in about a split second.
She laughed and her body language changed instantly. Now our interaction was no longer just business. And I did that because I’m Italian, and we just LOVE to bust people’s balls like that.
Flirting with women and teasing are practically the exact same thing.
RULE #4) Flirt with EVERY woman, child, and small furry mammal you encounter.
Flirting is an attitude that comes through in your vibe. If you only approach attractive women, you’ll just create a mental barrier for yourself, and more anxiety when you find a woman you “really” want to meet.
Flirting is about creating an abundance mindset. The more abundant you feel, the less you appear needy to a woman.
Now, HOW do you get started?
Here’s my 4 step formula for flirting with women:
Step 1) Indirect Question – Ask her something about wherever you are, and keep it situationally relevant.
In other words, if you’re in a coffee shop, you need to ask a question that relates to fact that you’re both in this coffee shop.
Step 2) Use a sassy comment – Sometimes called “Cocky & Funny”, or teasing.
Here’s what I like to use. I call it the “Duh” question:
“Do you think they serve the drinks really HOT here?”
Then she usually answers me with, “Uhm, yeah…” And after she looks at me like I’m from another planet, I smile, wink at her, and say, “You didn’t really think I was serious, did you?”
And the teasing has begun…
Then you have a playful conversation.
And finally, the last step in flirting with women is this:
Step 3) YOU leave the conversation first.
When you’re the one to control the ending of the conversation, your confidence will go up ten times more than if she tells you, “I’ve got to get going.”
So don’t let her get the drop on you.
Create what I call the Sacrificial 20: Leave with nothing for the first 20 women you flirt with.
No phone number, no nothing.
After you leave behind your old scarcity mindset, and when you feel like women are abundant, you can start to go further…
Remember, every girlfriend you’ve had started with a little bit of flirting…
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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as “Secrets of the Alpha Male”, “Approach Women – NOW!” and “Alpha Immersion”.
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By: Alex Coulson
About the Author:
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
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How to Pick Up Girls
June 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment
How To Pick Up Girls
Knowing how to pick up girls is fairly simple. You have a few areas to cover, and when you make yourself proficient at them, you’ll have no problems at all. At least that’s what you keep reading and telling yourself. Now if you could just convince yourself of that you’d be in business.
C’mon, man! Don’t beat on yourself for a few rejections, or for being somewhat intimidated. Every guy goes through this. There really ARE just a few things to remember. Here’s the quick and easy list:
Be choosy. Stop for a moment and look around. Do you really want to meet someone tonight, at this place? If you do, then decide who interests YOU. Don’t stop at one, select several that look interesting. If you can’t find at least three interesting girls, then it may not be worth your time and effort. You have the control of where, when, who, and how.
Start a conversation, don’t throw out a pick-up line. Nobody likes to feel like they’re the flavor of the moment. Coming off with a cheesy pick-up line is disingenuous, unflattering, and rude.
Smile and maintain eye contact. Being friendly and open is always very appealing to a girl. Smiling and looking into a girls eyes is a huge deal for her.
Enjoy yourself. When you enjoy yourself, it comes through as a positive trait in you. No one wants to be around a person who’s not having any fun.
Now, try this the next time you go out and want to meet a girl. Pick out who you want to meet. Go up to her, smile, and say something like, “Hi. My name is —. I noticed you across the room and decided I’d like to meet you. Would you mind a little light conversation?”.
Chances are that she’ll start talking with you. This way of starting a relationship is very effective and very potent. If, however, she says she does mind, then smile, excuse yourself and leave. Your dignity will be intact. Her wishes will be met.
Try this method out. You’ll be happily surprised at your results.
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By: Alex Coulson
About the Author:
Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.
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Holding Onto the “wrong” Girl: Biggest Dating/relationship Mistakes Part Two
June 27, 2009 | Leave a Comment
As I mentioned earlier in Part one , the first week or two will be amazing and the girl will seem almost perfect but this is before her pain body comes out to play. People are very good at hiding their imperfections and faults and other things that would make you second guess your choice to be with that person. No matter how good of an actress or how well hidden her dark secrets are, the undesirable and deal breaking behaviors will rise to the surface.
When the pain body does come out you may find yourself in a situation where you think it might be time to move on. VERY OFTEN, guys make the mistake of not moving on for several reasons:
1. They still hold onto the “perfect girl” image. It is very painful to the ego to find out that the person you are with is not as good as you once thought. From this, the mind will make rationalizations for her unwanted behavior because it can’t or won’t face the possibility that she might not be right for you.
2. The fear of becoming lonely and single again is too much to bear. This is a neediness issue. You need someone to make you happy or fill that gap inside of yourself. At the core of this is a fear of dying alone and miserable.
3. You have already invested so much time in her that you feel like you don’t have the energy to do it again with a new girl. You feel as though you have wasted all those hours teaching her what you know only to end up with nothing in the end. Time is never wasted on an incompatible partner because you learn and grow from this experience.
4. Since you read my website and other relationship websites you think that you can fix her. This is a big one for most guys. In their past relationships they had girlfriends that suck and didn’t do anything about it. Now that they know better, they still have girlfriends that suck but think they can do something about it. It’s just another way that the ego refuses to accept reality.
Also, its a way to mend past wounds through this girl to make up for past mistakes. By fixing her they think they can fix the pain or regret they still have from their past relationships.
5. To avoid getting down on themselves for picking the wrong girl. Similar to the above, they assume they know better and wouldn’t pick a “bad” girl that isn’t right for them. It becomes “relationship know how” part of the ego-because they read it means they won’t make that mistake.
6. They don’t want to hurt the girl feelings. Face it, break ups hurt but dragging a bad relationship out will hurt much worse. Bad relationships come down to incompatibility between two people. Its best for both people involved to not try and force a relationship that clearly doesn’t work and allow themselves the freedom to search for one that does. I’m not for everyone and wouldn’t want to waste someone else’s time on a fruitless excursion.
Number 5 is a difficult one for most guys to get past. They assume that because they read about relationship mastery that they will not make the same mistakes. Knowledge is not the same as wisdom. Knowledge is knowing something and wisdom is actually doing it.
Reading websites like this definitely HELPS but it doesn’t mean you will get women and have relationship mastery just from reading alone-you must actually do what is being taught.
What most guys don’t realize is that facing the possibility that they are holding onto to the wrong girl and being honest with themselves is far greater than being in a crappy relationship. It is quite time consuming and painful to try and float a sinking ship that will inevitably hit the bottom of the ocean.
The path to relationship mastery will be met with many mistakes. It took Edison 10,000 tries before he figured out the correct way to make a light bulb. When asked about it, he said “I learned 9,999 ways NOT to make a light bulb.”
Holding onto a girl that isn’t right for you is like holding onto one of the mistakes on your road to learning relationship mastery. Mistakes happen and the perfect girl for you will come when you least expect it but she won’t be able to come into your life if you are busy wasting time stuck in a bad relationship.
Show some love in the comments. Feedback and Discussion are HIGHLY encouraged; it’s what makes this blog alive!
Check back for Biggest Relationship Mistakes Part Three
-Alex
p.s: Send any questions you have to questions@innergamereframe.com
By: Alex Strandberg
About the Author:
“The time when you feel like you are not growing is the time when you grow the most”
-Me
I’m a brutally honest, heart centered, charismatic, take no shit, compassionate, loving, chakra meditating, self educated, female bisexual promoting, Relationship Sex and Dating Master, Truth Seeking, Natural born leader, spiritual warrior, passionate writer and teacher.
How to Pick Up Girls
June 25, 2009 | Leave a Comment
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