Me and my girlfriend want to have a baby as teens?
I am 17 and my girlfriend is 16.
We have been together for just over 2 years now.
We both really want to have a baby, because we love babies and children.
We both have jobs and she plans on moving into my apartment with me.
I was just hoping you could give me any advice, personal teen pregnancy stories, and the pros and cons of having a baby as a teen.
We both know that it will be a challenge, but we want it more than anything.
We are still unsure about having a child, so any opinions would be great.
I’m not saying that I feel you two shouldn’t have a family one day, but I am saying that maybe you all should wait a few years. Honestly, these are the years you both should be enjoying or spending on education. Life goes way to fast I know, but trust me, you’ll have plenty of time if it’s truely meant to be. Children totally transforms you life, not that it’s a bad thing, but I remember when I was your age. I got married and we had 2 children, seems like yesterday and now I’m 35 and I sit and wonder where my 20’s went, it flew by me so fast. It’s just unbelieveable how fast times goes once you have a family of your own. You have time, wait a few more years. Take time to smell the fresh cut grass and have quiet moments of planning your futures together. Don’t ever make a lay out plan though, nothing ever hardly goes as planned, lol, seriously though. Wait until she’s at least out of school, like around 19 or 20 before you all make such a decision.
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It seems you don’t have anyone to avoid you(or they don’t care for your decisions-like parents …). But don’t even think about it and consult a wise person who can help you first.
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it will deff.ly be a CHALLENGE!!! you got that part right. but she is a little too young. but i really know how you guys feel cuz im almost 18 & i personally would like to have a child. but i think it would be BEST to have a baby when you can pay for one & all the expenses & provide a roof over its head. & im not sure how the heck you have an apartment at the age of 17..? hmm.? well anyways not only will it be a challenge but it’ll also be a challenge for your relationship. no one ever really thinks of the bad side that comes with having a baby. there is TONS of stress involved it could either make or break your relationship.. there will be difficulties & bumps along the road so just think about it before making any final decisions.. but good luck.
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Let me put it like this.
The average lifespan of an adult in the US is 80. You have currently used 17 of these years, and are now down to 63 years left. You want to have a child, which will inhibit your ability to further your education, will introduce extreme stress into both your life and your girlfriends life, and will cost you $124,800 to raise them to 18. Brains don’t stop developing until mid-20’s, and until this process is complete you both will undergo major hormonal and mental changes, possibly changing your interests in one another.
I only produce facts and logic…it’s your decision to make.
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well i had my daughter at 16 yrs old and i didn’t really plan it its so hard for me to say that that’s not a good idea since i love her so much but still to this day i would say its best to wait cause believe me your life will become that baby and it can be very stressful for some one young to handle and i don’t know you and your girlfriends relationship and people say that teens cant be in love and that’s not true to this day my high school hunny and i love each other but still really think about it cause really its a big decision i wouldn’t suggest it so young good luck
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Loving babies and children is nothing like being "parents". If you care about your future family, you would get your education out of the way first, get a good career and be financially secure. It’s difficult being parents without worrying about careers, financial security, and being mature enough to realize that baby comes first. You will have to give up a lot of your freedom and be totally responsible for upbringing your child through sickness and health. Try getting a dog first and see how difficult that is, then picture it being a child which is 10 times harder!
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I’m not saying that I feel you two shouldn’t have a family one day, but I am saying that maybe you all should wait a few years. Honestly, these are the years you both should be enjoying or spending on education. Life goes way to fast I know, but trust me, you’ll have plenty of time if it’s truely meant to be. Children totally transforms you life, not that it’s a bad thing, but I remember when I was your age. I got married and we had 2 children, seems like yesterday and now I’m 35 and I sit and wonder where my 20’s went, it flew by me so fast. It’s just unbelieveable how fast times goes once you have a family of your own. You have time, wait a few more years. Take time to smell the fresh cut grass and have quiet moments of planning your futures together. Don’t ever make a lay out plan though, nothing ever hardly goes as planned, lol, seriously though. Wait until she’s at least out of school, like around 19 or 20 before you all make such a decision.
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I know for a fact that it’s very hard. It will/would be very hard on your girlfriend and it’s VERY expensive. Research all the costs. The hospital stay and the check ups before the birth…it all adds up. If I were in your situation I’d wait until 20-25 or at least until you are both out of high school. A 16 year old girl isn’t done growing yet, so as i say again, it would be hard on her, and the baby. If you to plan on staying together for a long time, start saving money. Open a savings account and keep putting in money until you have enough that you feel secure. If something happens to you or her and you cant work then you have less income.
If you do decide on having i now (which i strongly do not suggest) make sure you think everything through and you both agree to work together and want to go through with it 100 percent. I hope this helps.
I wish the best of luck to you both
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Common sense, Friends experiences, Parents Experiences, health books
WOW!
Well you shouldn’t have a baby just because you LIKE babies, it is a huge responsibility. you have to be willing to give up all the fun things about being young like you personal-free-time and devote your lives to the baby and make sure you can feed it, tend to it and love it and not expect or demand love because it might not appreciate everything you do for it but you have to risk that and hope you do a good job raising it and it grows up to be a good person and appreciates everything. You also have to consider the face that you could do all you can to raise a good child but in the end it just might be a bad person, you cant shape someones personality but you can do your best to let it know you and your partner love it unconditionally.
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Well lets see. I had my first at 15 and it was the hardest thing i have ever done. But at the same time it was the most rewarding. Having a baby is not easy. There are many ups and downs of parenting. But in my situation life just threw me a curve ball that i had to dodge. You sound more prepared then i was. But some advise. Talk to you family. Your family should be your number one supporter. Make sure this is who you always want some relationship with. I can’t stand my baby daddy but its his son also and so me and him have to deal with each other and that can be really hard. Next do you have a car? That’s important. Next babies are expensive. And i mean very! Crib,doctor bills,diapers,wipes,bottles,medicine,everything is pricey and adds up. Please do me a favor and really think hard about this life changing situation. There is no turning back once that baby is in your arms. Good luck and think hard
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Do it! have a million babies!
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life experience with makin millions of babies
I’d suggest watching the MTV show "16 and Pregnant" to get a taste of what it’s like. It’s not going to be easy, nor fun. You can’t return the child when they cry/puke/pee everywhere/ scream/etc. How about you and your girlfriend BOTH try babysitting an infant EACH (seperately) for at least two months, more than 3 days a week, and see how that works out for you two. If you can’t handle babysitting an infant, then you definately can’t handle having your own.
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Life.
I am 16 and all I can see is cons…
no time for friends, eachother, and your placing a burden on your families! Hey, your talking about a HUMAN BEING here… not a babydoll, you dont play with it then when your sick of it throw it away… This is a lifetime your talking about thiers and yours!
Seriously? Babies can be such a blessing, when the time is right, like after college with TONS of money saved up… I mean it sounds more fun to spoil a baby then barely scrape by… and if you wait, your friends might have kids by then too!
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